Are you a divorced dad? So what? As long as dating for single dads is easy! Can a divorced Dad be a great father? Perhaps a divorced guy should also ask: "Why not?" Just because you're not divorced, it does not mean that you are not a great father. It's really such a pity that our society considers someone as a dead beat parent just because he's divorced. There are a lot of wonderful divorced fathers out there and you can learn a lot from them.

Realizing the Situation... You have got to understand that children suffer greatly from having only one parent. It could be because they had angry parents, or because of separation anxiety or any number of things: it's tough for children whose parents are divorced, getting divorced, or who are single.

Appearing to carry on as normal for the kids need sacrifice. Usually, both mother and father have to be able to set aside their differences long enough to inspect the damage that they have both done to their children. More often than not though, parents get so engrossed with their emotional grief, that they fail to notice that their children are suffering even more than they are.

If you are a single parent this is not easy. Dating for dads and dating for mothers is the only answer - don't rush into things, but children need two parents and when you're ready, you should get, and will find, another partner.

Investigations show that when both parents make a deliberate effort to stay friendly to each other, then they will have more successful and stable children. What else do you need to know? Kids require a parent of each sex. Never think that dating for single dads or single mother is out of the question. In fact, it is important for the children. But you knew that already, didn't you?

A Formal Study: To emphasize the importance of a father's closeness to his children, the State University of Arizona conducted a study of college students whose parents were divorced. The researchers observed personality, emotional and mental maturity, health, and even interest in school and success. The researchers found facts that support the idea that whoever had primary custody, it is certain that children need access to adults of both sexes.

Results: The findings are very surprising. statistics quite clearly show that kids who have only one parent have healthier and more mature relationships than their parents and make a conscious effort of keeping their family together.

61% of the children involved in the study asserted that their mum or whoever had primary custodianship moved them at least an hour's drive away from the other parent. One of the concerns expressed by the students was getting caught in the crossfire. Also, when they stayed with one parent, future financial help (like for school or college) lessened. For example, if they stayed with Dad, Mum gave less when college came, and vice versa. So, the fact is that the 1 hour's distance already had a negative effect on the children.

Emotional upheaval cannot really be prevented, but a closer inspection of the children showed that those whose parents stayed close to them had a better emotional disposition and a better mentally.

Results: so, in a nut-shell, the case study demonstrates that divorce does affect the kids. The way the parents treat each other and the distance they live apart does have a very significant impact that could tip the scales as to whether a child succeeds or not. It is difficult to make friends with an ex-wife after all that has transpired, but it will be even more difficult for you as a divorced or separated Dad, when you see your children suffer from the consequences of your decisions.

As a divorced father, it is it is up to you. You owe it to yourself and to your children to make first step to remaining close.