Far too often it seems that men complain about how women are complicated, fickle and mysterious creatures that they will never understand and can never please. Finding the right gal can be a troublesome affair for many guys.

You don't need to be Tom Cruise, however, to get the gal. Dating isn't such a difficult task. It's not an obstacle course after all. Woman are human beings too. Just follow a few standard rules and you're all set to go. Your first outing could signal the beginning of something wonderful.

The perfect first date should be exciting. It should be fun and flirtatious and light hearted. Don't make it out to be more than it really is. Taking that in account, know that grabbing a mocha at Starbuck's really doesn't cut it. Going on a date means you fetch your date at her place and take her out for dinner or a show.

The thoughtful gentleman always has something planned in advance. A first date isn't something you can plan on the fly. You usually need to make reservations or purchase tickets beforehand. It really needn't be too fancy, but you do need a plan.

Don't insult your date by taking her to some gauche and cheap bar or chain restaurant. You want to make your first date special so don't be afraid to spend a little time making plans. Don't be cheap either--that's extremely unattractive especially on a first date.

Communication is an important part of any relationship at any stage. Remember to call your date to confirm. Don't ring her at the very last moment; your date won't appreciate this at all. A girl doesn't like to be kept in suspense. It's common courtesy to call. And it's really an easy thing to do too. So do it.

Don't be late. Punctuality is good form. Being late shows your date that you don't value her time. Besides if you are late you're already jeopardizing your date. It simply looks bad and your date won't be happy. If you know you're going to be late, again, pick up the phone as soon as you can.

Show her you like her. Signal your attraction immediately, don't keep it to yourself. Every girl likes to be flattered. Don't be too profuse. Laying it on too thick will only cause irritation. But do toss out a 'you look good' or 'nice shoes'. It's an easy point to score.

Women spend a lot of time and a fair amount of cash in preparing for a date. They go to their hair dresser's and get manicures. Grooming is expensive. Pick up the check, your date has already shelled out a small fortune just to be there.

If you find that the date isn't so great, be kind yet firm. Say something along the lines of, thanks for coming, it was nice meeting you. Don't say you'll call when you know you won't.

If the date goes well, let her know you had a good time. Be courteous and gentlemanly.