Anger starts out as annoyance. Annoyance becomes irritation. Irritation is followed by being upset. More of the threatening behavior, and you get an outburst of anger. Anger is a normal human emotion that we display to warn our aggressors to stop whatever they are doing to us because we do not like it. Being a normal emotion doesn't mean that anger can't become a problem. In fact, there are a lot of people that have anger management issues. You'll notice that people with anger problems display their disdain more frequently, and oftentimes, more violently.

People with anger management problems are divided into two types. First, there are those people who think that they need to control their anger, but feels helpless because they just can't find a way to do so. And second, there are those who think that they're still on the right side even when they are already angry. As we can see, both these facts would give us an idea that anger can cloud judgment. When a person gets angry, his/her focus is intensified more on the negative side and all the good things are neglected. One good example is, when a guy gets angry with his fianc, all he can think about are just the bad things and forget how sweet and loving she is.

To control your anger, you are going to first accept that you have anger issues. You have to make a promise to yourself that you will do whatever it takes to keep your emotions from dictating your actions. Here are a few anger control techniques that you can try.

Creative Outlet: Pour out your emotions on something. It helps if you get creative. If you know how to draw or paint, then paint what you feel - artistically. You might see that your visual representation of what you feel can get really scary. You can also write poems or songs.

Physical Outlet: The key for this technique is exercise. Try to engage in sports where you need to exert physical effort. Try to go swimming, biking, hiking, jogging, or brisk walking. Just avoid sports that have physical contact like boxing, soccer, and basketball. But if you really like playing basketball, then you may do so, as long as you do it alone. You can still play basketball and shoot the ball all by yourself anyway.

Count: This is an anger control method that never gets old. Counting from one to ten helps you hold off any violent reactions and buys you time to reassess what your actions are going to be. It helps if you count slowly. By the time you get to ten, you might not have needed to do your outburst after all.

There are just some of the many anger control techniques that you can use and may be effective for you. But if you feel that these techniques are not effective for you, then, try to look for more techniques, they're just out there waiting for you.