Anger is not wrong. It is a very normal emotion, but it is problematic when people express anger excessively at other people or even at themselves. Anger management therapy helps people when their anger has become damaging to the people around them or themselves.

Anger management therapy refers to therapeutic strategies that allow people with anger management issues to overcome excess feelings of anger and control the effects of such feelings.

There are several ways of controlling anger by self effort. Expressing your anger in an assertive, but not aggressive, manner is the healthiest way deal with anger. Assertive communication is the appropriate use of expressing your feelings and needs without offending, hurting or taking away the rights of others. This can be taught by counsellors.

When you feel those angry feelings coming on you can start to control your breathing in order to remain calm. Inhale gently through your nose, count to 3, and exhale slowly through the mouth. Yoga and meditation are other methods to help you relax. Strenuous exercise will also control your anger through diversion. Some people swear by hitting a pillow or boxing ball as a means of anger management.

Becoming angry is not the answer. Once you accept this and see that your anger is not going to make you feel better and it certainly will not get rid of the problem you are half way there. Make a joke. Yes, laughing reduces anger or alternatively go and speak to somebody about how you feel. All of these things will help you control your anger.

Some people may prefer to seek professional anger management therapy if the methods of self-control are not effective enough. Cognitive Behavioral Therapies are often used for this purpose.

With CBT people participating in the therapy discuss and record moments when anger is at its peak, identify the feelings or thoughts that trigger this anger, list reasons for these feelings, and then reanalyze their anger. The goal in anger management therapy is to make people stop and think, and thus analyze their anger instead of acting in destructive ways. Therapy can be based on individual or group sessions.