First and foremost, you need to know what NLP anchoring is. NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) is your automatic response to stimuli. NLP is similar to classical conditioning that is taught in many psychology classes. Anchors are just one of the tools in NLP and are used to hold a feeling or reaction in place.

Throughout are lives we are constantly being conditioned whether we realize it or not. For instance, maybe as a small child, a relative would lock you in a dark closet just to bully you around a bit. As a result, you might be claustrophobic or afraid of the dark. These feelings are a negative result of the incident. In order to overcome the phobia, you have to retrain your brain with positive thoughts and feelings.

All of us have had good and bad experiences in our lives. Maybe some experiences were so bad that now, even the thought of a similar situation evokes the negative emotions. In order to overcome these feelings associated with the experience, we have to concentrate on finding positive memories to associate with the experience.

While experiencing the situation that makes you uncomfortable, think of NLP Anchoring; focus on a memory that gives you positive feelings. Keep focusing on that memory until the undesired feelings subside. Perform this exercise repeatedly until your mind automatically associates the positive feelings with the event.

Another exercise in the NLP Anchoring process is to associate touch with a positive feeling. Maybe there is a certain gesture or even a certain spot on your body, finger, hair or hand, which you can learn to connect positive feelings to. Then, when you start feeling the negative feelings, you can touch that area to help you bring about positive feelings.

What about knowing that a certain situation or person is going to make you experience unwelcomed feelings? NLP Anchoring addresses this issue as well. Identify the situation or person, when the undesirable feelings appear, think of a time when you had good feelings. Keep doing this until you are able to think of the person, place or thing without experiencing the bad feelings.